Finding a new place to live - need help
help!!! Ideas?? Know someone? I need a place in Bergen or eastern Passiac County in NJ, or Southern Rockland County NY I hate moving. The place where I live now is going sour. I rent a room in a house, and my landlady is..... well... PM and I can tell you about the parts that suck the most. Suffice it to say that it is not a good living situation anymore and I need to find a new place sooner rather than later. ~Katie & Duds. |
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| Sorry Katie ...no help here...but if you ever want to move to phx, ill help you...lol...it definately is a lot cheaper out here.....thats a morgage payment!!!
Good luck...fingers are crossed for you |
Sorry you're having a rough time Katie! Wish I had some useful advise... other than moving south!  You could buy a nice home here for that kind of money!
Good luck with your search!! |
| Katie - where do you work, and how far are you willing to travel? |
| I work in Old Tappan - that's exit 168 on the parkway. I'm willing to travel up to 45 minutes. When I first started working there, in the pre-Dudley days, I was driving and hour and a half each way because I was living in Somerset. I had a bad car accident on the way to work one morning, where my car flipped and rolled 5-6 times. I have no recollection of what happened. I took it as a sign to move. I'm getting signs that I need to move again... |
Good luck Katie  |
| Do you have a job that you can transfer to another city? Do you have any ties that keep you where you are, such as siblings, parents...? Do you love to do what you're doing...can you find employment in another city? Have you looked into a condo? Moving is so stressful, good luck.
We are also looking for a new place, but I want an acreage, that is cheaper than our house in the city...we want to get out of debt. We are having a hard time deciding which side of the city we want the most. Our decisons are gonna affect more than just us, we want our family to be able to visit often...that choice takes us further from his work. iIf we choose closer to work, than we may not be able to visit or have visitors as often....it makes its 1 hour for them to visit, verses 15 min. Either way we are looking at a commute of 30 min to 45 min....depending on traffic. |
Daisie wrote: We are also looking for a new place, but I want an acreage, that is cheaper than our house in the city....
Daisie, just a thought about making your decision when choosing a place to live. I'm not sure how far out you were thinking of moving, but I grew up in the country, 70 acres, not another neighbor for almost a mile. The closest person my age was almost 8 miles away (until I was about 13 and a girl moved in a half mile away). To make matters worse, we went to a school in a more populated area where everyone lived close together. It's a miserable existence not so much for a small child but once you get to be school age, there's no one close to hang around with and you miss out on the whole playing with the neighborhood kids thing. Everyone else had kids close by and we didn't. People's parents never wanted to drive all the way out to our house to drop their kids off to play so my poor mom ended up taxiing us around all the time, which can be a bit much. As we got older, because there was very little do out there, all the kids did was drive around and drink-- not me though, I got a car and got the heck out! In a lot of ways, I can see pople thinking that it's a better way for kids to grow up out the city but, at the same time, kids can develop some pretty bad habits once boredom sets in. My sister and I were always pretty grounded and never got into trouble but both us hated being out there. It stinks to be isolated at a time when kids are forming relationships and gaining social skills. To this day, my sister's social skills are pretty lacking! I'm sure living where we did isn't entirely to blame but it definitely didn't help. Since she was shy to begin with, being by herself a lot only encouraged that behavior. I just wanted to share that, not just for you but for anyone else who thinks about moving out to the country. These are only my opinions and experiences-- some people might disagree. However, I hear a lot of people that grew up in the city or suburbs saying how much they want to live in the country with their kids and I cringe. It can be so lonely! It may have been different in past generations but I think, since we went to a "city" school, we saw both sides of how people lived and we really felt like we were missing out on stuff. It's tough enough to fit in as a kid and I think the social experiences that you gain living in a neighborhood with other kids close by helps you learn to form relationships early on. Again, just my thoughts but this is something I've always felt pretty strongly about so I thought I'd share! Jill |
| Good news - looking at a new place in a similar living situation on Friday. The lady that lives there has two smaller dogs (beagle and lhasa) and she wants help with them. I hope she doesn't think that the Duds is too big.... ~Katie. |
| All very valid points Jill, this is what we figured and why we stayed here instead of moving to the country 5 years ago. BUT....now that the kids are older most of the mom's around here have returned to work and the kids go to daycare or after school care. So even tho I live on a street where lots of other kids live...we dont see a single soul because the neighbor kids dont get home much before 7pm. And then on the weekends they are all at their assorted activities. Do we wish we would have made that move to the country 5 years ago...sure we do. But we have the opportunity to do it now and we are going to be only 5 minutes from town...so we will have the best of both worlds. |
Hope this new situation works out for you Katie! Good luck!!  |
kweenkmatt wrote: Good news - looking at a new place in a similar living situation on Friday. The lady that lives there has two smaller dogs (beagle and lhasa) and she wants help with them. I hope she doesn't think that the Duds is too big....
~Katie. Hope everything works out!! |
WizardMerlin wrote: But we have the opportunity to do it now and we are going to be only 5 minutes from town...so we will have the best of both worlds.
5 minutes from town is great though. It really is the best of both worlds. It's the isolation of being out there that's a bummer. |
ButtersStotch wrote: Daisie wrote: We are also looking for a new place, but I want an acreage, that is cheaper than our house in the city.... Daisie, just a thought about making your decision when choosing a place to live. I'm not sure how far out you were thinking of moving, but I grew up in the country, 70 acres, not another neighbor for almost a mile. ended up taxiing us around all the time, which can be a bit much. As we got older, because there was very little do out there, all the kids did was drive around and drink-- not me though, I got a car and got the heck out! I just wanted to share that, not just for you but for anyone else who thinks about moving out to the country. These are only my opinions and experiences-- some people might disagree. Again, just my thoughts but this is something I've always felt pretty strongly about so I thought I'd share! Jill That's fine Jill, I totally understand what you're saying, but i grew up on a farm too. We had extended family, all in a few miles, so I always had cousins to play with. Then if I wanted to go a girlfriend's house, I would go for a sleepover and take the schoolbus with her to their house. It was a great childhood...that part of it anyways. My husband has always been a city kid, and I've now lived in towns/and now this city for a total of 15 years. 18 years of country life, and 15 city years of city life...both have good points and both have bad. If and when we find our acreage, it will be a 1-5 acre size, with the expectation that we will be within 5-15 min to the city, and 30 min to hubby's work. My kids will be bussed to school, and continue with skating/swimming/and hopefully music lessons. Around here many acreages are hooked up with either city water or wells...these are the ones I am focusing in on. But I want peace and quiet, place for the kids to play as loud as they want, ride their bikes whenever they want, let Remy run around more than a yard size....see the stars at night....breathe fresher air....have a huge garden instead of a flower bed....not have neighbours wondering if your gonna mow your half of the lawn. Not worrying if we leave Remy outside if she's being a barking nuisence. As well as a place to park our camping trailer, and Camaro...both which need to be parked in winter. I'd like to have bonfires with family, which you can't have in our backyard. The biggest reason we are moving is that we can find something, and save ourselves $500 a month in mortgage. Plus our taxes will also be about half what we pay. I'll worry about all that other stuff with kids later, right now they are 5 and 6 years old, we will probably move again before they become teenagers. Thanks for all the tips, but been there lived it, and loved it. =D |
| We live 5 minutes from town, and we always seem to have someone's else's kid here for the day or sleepover. The city kids love to come over for a bonfire, camp in the back yard, ride the lawn tractor, have an outdoor party and make as much noise as they want to.
My son just mentioned to me today that he has noticed that his buddies parent's don't seem to ever ask them to do anything around the house, yet at our house there are chores that need to be done, and the kids are involved in sharing them. I asked him if that was good or bad, and he said that some of his friends don't know how to light a fire, ride a tractor, use a hammer, rake the yard, groom dogs, repair fencing etc. I guess different environments develope different talents. My teen boys often say that they would prefer to live in town, but when we remind them that then we would not be able to have the trampoline, or hot tub, or the 83 Mustang they change their mind. And when they go into town to visit a buddy they usually stay the nite and it is a novelty for them to hang out on the streets, not a habit where they get bored and into trouble. |
| 5 to 10 minutes away is perfect, IMO. I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in about living really isolated growing up. I only tossed it out because I would imagine many people who grew up in the city or suburbs wouldn't think of the effect it could possibly have on a kid, especially if it was something that they had been wanting to do for a long time. My parents both grew up in the city and got the farm as a wedding gift so they took it. That's how we got stuck out there!
Like I said, my closest friend was 8 miles away but school was over half an hour by car and almost an hour by bus. My first year of high school I had to be up at 4:30 to catch the bus. We were out there! To make matters worse, we were on the border line of 2 districts so I went to the better school but the one that was further away! Once you can drive it's much better. Ironically, now that I'm gone and moved away, the area has grown so much that I would've had a school a little over a mile away and they built 2 huge subdivisions not far away either. Kind of figures! It's a great life for some people, but it definitely isn't for everybody! |
| Katie,
If it doesn't work out I have some suggestions for you. I used to live in Middletown, NY in a dog friendly apt community. There are a ton of places up the way...including Goshen NY, Washingtonville, Monroe. It was 45 minutes from where I worked in Ramsey, NJ Contact me if you want more info. Some of the 1 bedrooms apts start at $650 Elissa |
ButtersStotch wrote: 5 to 10 minutes away is perfect, IMO. I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in about living really isolated growing up.
Like I said, my closest friend was 8 miles away but school was over half an hour by car and almost an hour by bus. My first year of high school I had to be up at 4:30 to catch the bus. We were out there! ! Okay that is yucky, I had an 45 min- 1 hour's bus ride, but never left my yard until 7:45 am I think it was...that's along time ago now. School from 9 am to 3:30 pm. See we had our bikes, and then skidoos to get around and play with. I can't imagine a better place to grow up then where I did. We were a working grain farm in the summer, but in the winter for a long time we were in the logging business. By the time I moved my grandpa was down to a couple fields, but was selling everything off, then he passed away when I was pregnant with Madelyn, and the farm has sold. So "home" is gone, and and it now feels like our family doesn't have anywhere to go....we use to all go "home" for holidays etc, but now everyone stays in their own houses. I want to be a place to have everyone come, I am centrally located to all my relatives. I agree with you tho, if you've always lived in the city, and then decided the country life is for you, you will be extremely bored. It is important to realize everything happens at a slower pace, and it is important to have things to do....to replace the hustle bustle and noise of city life. For hubby and I we are tired of many city things, and need a vacation...so to speak. Then after a few years perhaps we will be in a better financially place and move back into the city. I am hoping we will be more popular living in the country, and have lots more visitors. |
| Katie,
How's the home hunting going? Any luck and news? Inquiring minds want to know! Marianne and the boys |
| You can always try to contact your local animal shelter and they might have listings of people that are renting out their place that allow dogs. Thats how I fond my apartment here in CA. Its worth a try! Good luck. |
| Well, here's an update on things: Place #1 - this is the place that I was supposed to go see last Friday. I had been trying to reach the lady all week to confirm my appointment, but she wasn't calling back. I finally got a call at 5pm on Friday that she'd decided to keep her current tennant (the one she didn't like), and that she'd call me if the place became available. Her posting on Craigs's List said the place was available RIGHT NOW, so it was kinda misleading. Blah I have half a mind to flag her posting as such. Place #2 - in Sloatsburg, NY. Slightly cheaper, they have a dog there already, and the roomates are my age. Well, I get there and the girl that is showing me the place pulls up, meets us and says, "Oh, I thought you had a 'hot dog'". And I'm like, "You mean a Doxie? No, I sent you a website with his picture, I said 60 Lb. mixed breed dog." And she's like, "Oh, sorry, we only wanted a small dog here, not a big dog." And now that I think about it, I think she was afraid of the Duds. I was LIVID!  What a waste of my time - it took me 45 minutes to drive there from where I live now. This place has been listed several times over the past month, so maybe they're just being real picky.Middletown, NY is not cheap anymore - I looked into it. The cheap apts in the complexes are now $900 and up. It's also an hour+ away from work, and that's on the wrong side of the commuting radius. There is one person that works with me that lives there, and he says it's a real hectic commute.  Thanks for the idea, though.sigh - Nothing ventured, nothing gained - but still, every bit as frustrating. ~K. |
| Sounds frustrating.... I hope you find something that will work for you and Duds.... good luck |
Dudley can't cart you more than an hour each way?  |
| Wow, that's expensive. I pay less than half that for my mortgage here. I hope you find a place for you and Duds soon! |
| My mortgage was $3000 until I refinanced it down to $2500...
I need a job.... |
| I must be living in the WRONG parts! I am also looking for work in central PA - Harrisburg/Hershey - so I can share a place with my sister. She lives across the street from the place where they make the Reese's peanutbutter cups. sigh...something will come up, it always does. Keep the good vibes flowing! |
| ...and No, Ron - Duds can't cart me to work, unless maybe I lived in the City. And then I'd need Duds parking under my desk, since the Boy can't stand to be more than 5 feet away from me at any given time... he likes to be touching me as much as possible. Takes us about 45 min to drive 3-4 miles, so that hour commute for him would be about the distance I drive to work now. I'd do it if I could, believe me - and some people DO! |
| Sounds like new job relocation might be the way to go. Not only would you be with your sis but there are a lot of sheepdog people in that area. |
| Hey! Hey! Hey!
Thats me!!! I live in the Hershey area. Anything I can do to help? Are you looking for work in this area? Be glad to hunt something down for you. Let me know - or PM me. Shellie |
| Yeah!
Just let us know what type of work you do already or what you are qualified to do and maybe we can help. I work for the government you know, lots of openings here! Check out this website: http://www.usajobs.opm.gov/ Look at New Cumberland (that's where I work), Fort Indiantown Gap (that's about 15 minutes from Hershey) and Mechanicsburg NAVICP. Those are the places local to Harrisburg and Hershey. You can look at the Harrisburg listings too but they're usually really high up positions where you have to know someone who knows someone who knows someone. |
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