I see a child fall, and is sitting stunned. Mother rushes over:
"Are you OK?"
I see a child fall, and is sitting stunned. Before mother rushes over I lean over and smack the floor.
"Bad Floor!" (with a big smile)
"(giggle) (not sure what to make of this guy) (sniffle)(chuckle)"
It never fails.
|Ron, That is so true, you are giveing them a signal that
1) it is ok to cry
2) giveing them a reason not to cry!
|Ron, you should be a mother.|
|Very true Ron... I didn't figure that out til kid #2... but better late than never.
It's things like that that often take us a kid or two to learn.
Most mothers with their first baby will try to do everything so perfectly. For example, with a first baby, if the pacifier drops to the floor, the new mother picks it up immediately, washes it, sterilizes it by boiling for at least 5 minutes and and then gives it back to the baby.
By the second baby, the mother picks it up, rinses it under the tap and gives it back.
By the third, she pops it in her own mouth to rinse it off.
By the fourth, she puts the baby down to get it his or herself and rations that the dog hair on the floor doesn't hurt anyone else so it can't be all that bad for the baby.
|Stacey, I had that exact experience. I was playing with my niece, who is my brother's fourth child. She was banging on the table with a spoon and dropped it on the floor. I picked it up and wiped it with my napkin and asked my brother "is it OK to give it back to her?" He just laughed at me and said "haven't you heard of the 10 second rule?" There is NO WAY that would have been the response when his first child was a baby.|
|Right on Ron! I usually respond with OT O (sp) It takes their mind off the fact that they could be crying and makes for a much more pleasant aftermath. (Unless, of course they're really hurt.) lol
How much do you charge for parenting classes? Have some family and friends I'd like to send your way. Doesn't seem to work when I tell them they're the cause of some of those "scenes."
|Thanks all, but it was my Mom's technique...
I learned it from her as an adult, watching her with her grandchildren.
I'm not a parent, I only play one on the forum. I have a lot of great ideas about parenting, but they'd probably go out the window if I had to deal with a child of my own.
It's easy to be an uncle.
|Ron, Isnt that the truth!? I make a great aunt...but mom...hmmm..not so sure!|
|It's true, Darcy! I LOVE being an aunt!! It's so much fun!! And my nephews and niece adore me because it's ALWAYS FUN at Aunt Tammy's house.
Cute story: I asked my niece, who was three at the time, what she wanted for breakfast one morning. Posed with one hand on her hip and the other in a thoughtful "hmmmm" finger on the cheek pose, she answered "I think....I'll have....skittles." I laughed and told her I realize there aren't many "rules" at Aunt Tammy's house, but one of them is "no skittles for breakfast!" Since then, it's been sort of a running joke in the family that it's the ONLY rule at Tammy's house. Not quite true....but close!
|That is too cute...lol...|
|My parents had a similar parenting style. I played softball when I was little and was the smallest one on the team. I was the catcher, maybe because I wouldn't have to bend down as far? Well, my parents were both EMT's and when any of the other kids would get hurt, they'd rush out on the field and take care of them. I used to get knocked to the ground in plays at the plate or hit in the head because I'd stand up too fast trying to throw out runners (That getting hit in the head thing might actually explain a lot, hmmmm.) Whenever I'd be laying there, in the chalk outline position, my parents would just yell from the bleachers, "Are you alive?" "Yes" "Then get up!"
Gee thanks mom and dad.
|Gotta love that "tough love" approach!
"Is there blood? NO. Then you're fine - get up. "
|In my house the rule was "If your temperature isn't over 104 you are GOING TO SCHOOL!!"|
|Getting too close to home here, folks! In fact, my 9 year old still says (as he is dropping something) "Five second rule, Mom!!! It's OK!!!"|
I am a mother of three beautiful kids. And i totally agree its better to make them laugh and forget about been hurt. I have a 7 year old who split his head open last week in school. Every one was in a panic which was making him worse. So i made silly comment s to make him laugh instead of crying. And it worked. I also have a two year old and a 1 year old who are always falling and i do agree slapping the floor does work. And if you all love the aunty roll then you will love the parent one. I love my niece and nephew but it doesnt even compare to been a mother .
|Stephanie, As you said, I love being an aunt....Ill never be a mother becasue of certain circumstances, however, a stepmom to two lovely "adults" 18 and 19...But being a mommy to a fluffy and spoiled sheepdog has aliviated some of the mommy pangs....plus, she never talks back and no college education for this one....lol...|
|Didn't find exactly what you're looking for? Search again here:
Identifying Ticks info