Happy B-day to me!! NOT!!!
My Husband and Best Friend both forgot!! I said to hubby tonight after he made himself some Microwave Popcorn... Can I have some? He said you can have a handful (How Rude!) and I said well that's really rude especially since it's my Birthday. He responded...No, it's not your Birthday. I asked if he wanted proof. He said I thought it was the 9th... I said no... The 7th (which should be easy for him to remember since his is January 7th.. I am just pissed...no card, no cake...nothing Sorry just needed to vent!!! Elissa |
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  Maybe it's a ploy to make you think they both forgot, and I'm spoiling it by suggesting this. Or maybe they forgot. If I run to California, I still have 2 hours to celebrate with you! Ready? This is the biggest brithday wish ever on oes.org! |
| No, no ploy. Maybe I would think that if my best friend was here in CA, but she is in NJ. She at least has an excuse. She is busy with her three month old baby. She remembered it the other day. I know she was listing her house for sale today, so she probably had a lot on her mind.
Billy is in deep do do right now! I wasn't even going to say anything until bedtime. I just couldn't handle his attitude anymore, so I had to say something. He had gone shopping over the weekend but couldn't find me a gift. (He knew it was this week) He should have at least have gotten a card for me
I told him at 7:30pm...if I were him I would have run out to the store immediately and at least have bought a cake. Thanks for the biggest birthday wish ever 
I appreciate it! It brightened my day! Elissa |
| HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
We'll have a nationwide party for you. Everybody celebrate at your own houses with some cake and a digital birthday greeting!! For now, here's your cake!!  |
Thanks Mandy  A nationwide party is a bit extreme, but a nice thought. (Thanks for the cake  )
All I just wanted was for hubby to acknowledge that is was my birthday. He apologized as we were going to bed, but nothing really before that except for a simple ...Oh, I'm sorry. Am I over-reacting? Or should I hold this against him and make him pay?  lol
Just want some opinions on what people would do in my situation. I am just feeling really hurt by this. Thanks, Elissa |
| I sure don't know. I can certainly understand feeling sad he forgot and being annoyed that he seemed so unphased by forgetting. Is he the type of guy who remembered special occassions in the past? Is this a change for him? Is he focused on something else (work, family issues, etc.)? It might be worth letting him know how it made you feel because maybe knowing that would make him want to do something nice where making him "pay" would maybe get the same thing but not because he really felt it. It is definitely a bummer but I am not sure I would make a huge deal out of it unless you have reason to think it was something more than a simple oversight or mistake about the date. |
| First - HAPPY BIRTHDAY, ELISSA!!!
Secondly, I'd be hurt, too. And I'd probably pout a little bit. I hope Billy makes it up to you!  |
| Awww I'm so sorry Elissa.....
Happy Birthday!!! Sounds like hubby has a LOT of makin up to do... maybe now is the time to ask for a puppy?  That's what I'd do.... |
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 
If I forgot Danita's birthday Lennon would immediatly start renting me his house. And I'll have to work a lot to get out of there... Sorry that happened! |
| HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm really sorry your birthday was forgotten and I am sure it hurts!!! But one thing that I've learned in my many ong years (I'm older than dirt) is that not everyone puts the same importance on Birthdays. In my family they were always a BIG DEAL so when I got older and found out that not everyone placed the same importance on them it was CRUSHING. The first time Doug forgot my birthday I cried the entire next day. But then I realized what an incredibly wonderful marvelous fantastic loving person he was..birthdays just weren't his "thing". So now I make sure I "remind" him LOOOOOOONG and LOUD with plenty of warning when my birthday is coming up
But I have to confess, this year, after all the years of making a big deal out of Birthdays. I FORGOT HIS BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I knew it was coming up, I thought about it, planned for it (even had a gift wrapped and in the closet) and the day of it I COMPLETELY FORGOT IT!!! So forgive him but never let him forget it (or live it down) |
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Happy Birthday!!! I'm so sorry you had a yucky birthday- what a bummer! Kitty kisses and a big hug from MN, even though it is a bit belated! I never give my hubby a chance to forget, I remind him for months beforehand- One month to my birthday, it's my birthday on the 20th, 1 week to my birthday, tomorrow's my birthday... By May 20th, He's had it drummed into his brain so many times, there's no way he can forget What can I say- I like my birthday presents
Hope he's making proper reparations! Karen |
Iriskmj wrote: :clappurple:
I never give my hubby a chance to forget, I remind him for months beforehand- Karen No kidding. You can't trust men to remember that stuff-- even if it were same as his own birthday! As far as I'm concerned, my birthday is like the Christmas of the summer months (no religious affiliation of course, just presents and fanfare, I mean. I am not implying I am Godlike!). Everyone begins hearing about it in May ( 2 months prior) and I keep the reminders going to the point where people cut me off to say, yes, Jill we know it's your birthday. I'm annoying but it all works out. If I had kids I probably wouldn't be such a kid about it myself but since I don't... HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANYWAY!!!! |
| Make him pay!!!!!!!!! |
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Ah, happy birthday!! |
| Thanks Everyone.
Valerie, He did have some stuff on his mind, but I thought with writing the date on all of his invoices it would click in his head. Thanks Tammy
Stacey, It's already too crazy around here with three dogs. I think I'll wait on the puppy thing until one on them is gone. That will be a while though. But when it's time... I will say remember in 2005 you forgot my birthday... lol
Saul...too funny
Ginny, Birthdays are a very big deal with Billy. When it's his Birthday he makes a big stink about requiring a cake. He prefers if I make it because I make it exactly how he likes it. He actually was mad that I forgot to get him a card this year. I had to go out that evening and get him one. The present and cake weren't enough 
Karen, I normally remind Billy the same way. I figure since he had gone B-Day shopping last weekend that he knew when it was. I don't know how he could think it was the 9th... I think that's BS because during the year I quiz him on when my B-day is. Jill, I have kids and I am the same way as you. To me my birthday is a holiday. No presents for me though My parents gave me a check but that's not the same as being able to unwrap something.
I always took off of work when I was working. Luckily, I told me ex-husband, who also forgot... and he sent me a B-day card from Ryan and him. When I told Ryan it was my B-day he sang Happy Birthday to me and then asked if I could buy him a present 
Mandy... I will not let him live this down...EVER!!!
Thanks Barney1
Elissa |
| You go girl!!!!!!
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| I'm not big on celebrating birthdays either... not even for my kids. I think celebrating most holidays are silly and a waste of money actually... but that's me. LOL
So my sons will grow up to be those men who forget...lol...(I'll apologize to their wives ahead of time) and my daughter has grown into another person who could care less about holidays...lol.... |
| We're really big birthday celebraters, too. This kids get as many gifts at birthdays as they do at Christmas. It really is overboard, but it's hard to stop! |
| I would be very unhappy if it were me BUT! with so much sadness in the south I thank my lucky stars that I have a husband who can foeget and a home with out water to the ceiling. Or my pets gone and no one knows where they are. I look at my 3 dogs playing and God bless them. So you have alot there and I do wish you-----
Happy Bithday from the east coast Fergies Mom |
| Wow, what a bummer! I wouldn't be as upset about not getting a present as I would just from the fact that he didn't remember the day!! Especially in light of how he likes HIS birthday a certain way. I agree - don't EVER let him forget that he forgot, and make him pay! Like - he does ALL the household chores for a week, including taking care of both kids and all 3 dogs while you just sit in the chair and watch.
MEN! Can't live with 'em, can't leave 'em by the side of the road! Chris |
| I don't think celebrating is really about presents it's more about being made to feel special. Just having people say "Happy Birthday" and it being "your day" is the best feeling.
So no commercialism, no materialism just a little extra oomph for your ego on your BIG DAY!!!!! |
| :bdcake: Happy (belated) Birthday Elissa
Now, as for Billy, I think you should take the high road and graciously announce that, just for this year, you will allow him to celebrate your birthday on the 9th. So now he has a day to plan something fabulous for you for tomorrow. Or perhaps you should declare a whole Elissa Birthday Weekend. You deserve it! You know the old saying - living well is the best revenge! I'll celebrate with you in spirit! Sue |
| Happy belated Birthday Elissa!
If it makes you feel better my Hubby and my MOM both forgot one year! They both won't ever do that again! I still bring it up!
Colleen and The Gooch |
| Thanks Fergies' Mom. I am very blessed with my family...etc
Mandy I agree, the whole point was that my birthday should have been a special day and I am used to feeling special on my birthday. It's really not about the gift as much as it's about being my special day..which it was not. Thank You for the B-day wish. Stacey, I am nuts at Christmas time...like a little kid, Though that may have something to do with being raised Jewish. I am making up for all I missed.. lol
Chris, He is nuts about his B-day's that what got me so upset. Drezzie's Mom wrote: MEN! Can't live with 'em, can't leave 'em by the side of the road! I love it!!! lol Oh, he will be feeling the wrath of this for many years to come
Thanks Sue He hasn't called me at all today so I have no idea what he's up too. I will suggest what you said if he did not do anything for today.
Colleen, I am so sorry that your hubby and Mom forgot your B-day.... Shame on your Mom most of all. How could she forget? I guess you can sympathize with me more than anyone. Thanks Elissa |
| Yes! Birthdays are YOUR special day. I'm sorry yours was such a bummer. If I were you, I'd start "reminding" him several days in advance with little hints like, "Oh, that would make a super birthday present" or "If you need any ideas for my birthday, I have a few", etc. It doesn't hurt to remind them. Sometimes I think it goes in one ear and out the other! When I was a kid, in my family our birthdays were special. We could request whatever we wanted for dinner and we always had presents and a cake along with the mandatory birthday song which always ended up with us laughing since none of us can carry a tune! My mother would ALWAYS say "I know what I was doing at 5:46 am XXX years ago today!" Even after all us kids were grown and away from home, the phone would ring and we would hear Mom singing Happy Birthday and giving us the old "I know where I was....." Oh what I would give to hear the phone ring and have my Mom sing Happy Birthday to me just one more time. Sometimes it just hurts my heart to know I can't talk to my Mom or Dad again. They were such super parents and wonderful people. Whew! I sure got off on a tangent! Thanks for letting ME vent! |
Drezzie's Mom wrote: MEN! Can't live with 'em, can't leave 'em by the side of the road!
Chris Wellll..... you can..... |
| Deskwench.... my parents are like that too... my mother does the singing on the phone thing, my Dad and Stepmom always cook me my favorite foods, lasagne, ceasar salad, and either cherry cheesecake or his own recipe, a homemade chocolate fudge cake with what he calls "gunk" icing...lol.... it tastes like melted marshmallows, but it's not, he actually makes it from scratch. He has thrown out a few batches in the process, bowl and all. LOL
I do bake a cake and let the kids choose their birthday dinner, let them pick a movie to rent or something they would like to do, but it's just a family thing, no 30 kids birthday parties for me! LOL I think for me, holidays have become something I stress over and just want over with.... I don't enjoy them as much since some of my family has passed away and after that we just don't get together anymore. |
| HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELISSA from Barney, Maggie and me.
Two suggestions: First: For your own health and peace of mind you should let him know how you felt about the whole thing - I think you've done this. I suspect he has gotten the message and like most of us men, have a difficult time eating humble pie. Second and the hardest thing: To error is human, to forgive Divine. God bless you on your birthday (belated). May you have many more. |
| Happy Birthday Elissa!
And for the R rated version: Men! Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em for sport. But you can stuff 'em and mount 'em. |
| Deskwench, My Mom does the same thing with I know where I was this day 32 years ago..etc I am very sorry your parents are gone. I can't even imagine mine not being around.
George, Barney & Maggie, Thank you for the B-day wish and the advice
Elissa |
| Update Well last night Billy called before he came home to apologize again and to say he feels really stupid (Good! he should) He asked if I would ever let him live this down... I said NO!! lol He told me he was taking the family to dinner and I should pick a place I wanted to go to. When he arrived home he walked in with a cake...Tiramisu...YUM!!! We went to dinner, then came home and had cake and he gave me cards from him and Hayley. No present, but like I said before it wasn't about that. All I wanted was to feel special and I did last night. |
| No offense to the men out there (including my husband, who is a really sweet guy and even buys cards for me from the dog) but they are never going to understand your need to be the birthday princess the way a girlfriend would. I'm lucky to have a fabulous group of girlfriends who will plan a celebration for no reason at all. One year we took a friend out to dinner and arranged to have an ELVIS IMPERSONATOR show up. (of course we got permission in advance, the manager loved it!) It took her a while to figure it out, then she turned to us with big eyes and said "Elvis is for ME?!?" It was a classic birthday moment. Once the first friend turned 40 we turned birthdays into birthday weekends. We have someone turning 40 nearly every year, and we've had some great girls weekends. And this year - the first one turned 50! So of course we had to go to Vegas.
So Elissa, tell Billy next year he can babysit for your birthday because you have to meet Darcy and I for a little celebration... |
| Im game!!! I agree with Sue....My girlfriends go all out....But really Im lucky....I have that twin sister....there will always be one person who wont forget my birthday.......and I still dont have my pantry shelves.... |
| Elissa! I'm so glad Billy did that for you!! You're absolutely right - it's all about our need to feel special for the day - and you did. Wonderful!!
Sue, your girlfriends parties sound fabulous!! |
Woohoo! Glad he came through for you, albeit a day late. I'm SURE he'll have the date etched in his memory from now on! And if he doesn't, that stuffing and mounting idea ain't half bad!! 
Chris |
| Sue & Darcy,
Sounds great, but I don't think Billy could handle both kids. Pretty funny, My Brother In Law called today to wish me a Happy Birthday. My Mother In Law told him my Birthday was today
Drezzie's Mom wrote: I'm SURE he'll have the date etched in his memory from now on! And if he doesn't, that stuffing and mounting idea ain't half bad!!
Chris I agree with you Chris...lol Elissa |
| Hmmmmm did it ever occur that maybe you got the date wrong? lol
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| YAY ELISSA!
I just knew Billy would come thru!
I totally echo the girlfriends are a must for birthdays! I should have mentioned that when Grant and my Mom forgot my birthday, my Nunas (that's the name of our girl group! ) barged in the house that night with cake in hand, presents and beautiful cards....oh and tiaras of course! With an air about them that made Grant probably want to hide under the bed! We had some wine and they all made me feel special!
So I think that you, Sue and Darcy just have to do it! I will lend you our "MS BIRTHDAY" red satin pagent sashes and a very glamous tiara for next year....and go out for a martini!
And Ron, Quote: Hmmmmm did it ever occur that maybe you got the date wrong? lol nice of you to try and stick up for the male gender....but PULLLLEEEEEEASE! |
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