Frustrated about neighbor who got an OES
My boyfriend and I live in an apartment complex. We got an OES from Shageybark (Gail). She is the absolute LOVE OF MY LIFE. And I literally could not say better things about Gail. She is incredible and her passion and dedication towards the breed show through the health and beauty of her pups. Well naturally, everyone is in love with her. One woman apparently approached my boyfriend asking all these questions about our OES. My boyfriend told me she was asking all the "right" questions. He asked if she was interested and she said she wasn't currently. He stressed that they are a lot of work and they require a lot of care and research before getting one. He mentioned we got ours from Gail. Anyway. She ended up getting one. I don't mean this in an awful way, all pups are cute. But as soon as I saw him, I knew he wasn't from Gail. I talked to her a bit. She said she went somewhere else thinking that she went to the same place we did. I looked the place up.... they are listed on that dog mill website and it's very apparent that there isn't responsible breeding happening. What's frustrating me is not only that, but she didn't do ANY RESEARCH. She has had her pup for a month (he's 3 months old now). She asked me what shampoos I use, how I discipline her, etc. She hasn't even taken her dog to the vet. She said she's waiting til she can get insurance. When I mentioned to her that she'll need to start cleaning out the ears/taking out the ear hair/etc, she looked at me completely surprised... She had no idea. And she thought that she couldn't get any shots/vaccines for her dog til he is 18 months old. I'm frustrated. I feel guilty because I feel like us having this dog is encouraging people to go out and try to get them without being responsible--despite me and by boyfriend stressing this. I want her to care for her own dog, but I'm also feeling like I need to constantly be hand feeding her information about how to care for her dog.  Suggestions? Has anyone dealt with this before? . |
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| Hi, It's a done deal - she has the pup. All you can do is help guide her now. You didn't do anything wrong. Some people just don't care to take advice they don't expect or don't want, and insist upon learning things the hard way. |
| Ron-- Thanks so much for the reply! I guess I will do my best to give her advice and I can just hope that she actually takes it. I definitely still feel a bit guilty/responsible even though I know it's not anything I did. I'll hope for the best!  |
| Just remember, don't revolve your life around her choice. She obviously did not research, and make sure she educated herself. Do not condemn yourself for her mistakes. I would offer advice when needed, on your choice. But do not feel guilty. There are many out there that see a breed, and go in blind. Send her to this site, she would get so much info, or to the fb page! |
| She made her own choice. If you have the time and energy, you can share your wisdom in terms of dog care with her, for the sake of her pup if nothing else. But do it out of compassion, not out of guilt. You have nothing to feel guilty for. |
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