Dino is struggling with her fate....
When our other dogs grew old and we had to help them to the bridge, it was very hard and very sad. But, we did not know when it would happen, and we knew they were seniors (Millie, 14...Pearl, 15). Of course he loves (loved) all of our pups, but I was the main caretaker. He worked so much that the interaction was limited to snuggling on the couch after dinner, and, if he didn't work weekends, some play and loving them. Right before Heart was diagnosed, Dino was transfered to the 2nd shift, which is 2:30p.m. -10:30p.m., which means he is with her most of the day. I am happy that she is not alone, in case something happens, but, not until last night did I realize how hard this is on him. He called me at about 4 and told me that during the day, Heart will just pant and stare, and he is concerned. I asked him if he thinks she is having a seizure? Or in pain? He said, No..but he wanted to let me know because he is worried about her. I told him she was fine and not to worry. Then I got off the phone and thought about it. This will be the first time he will very involved in this process. He has become Heart's main caretaker during the day, she lays on the bed with him, he strokes her. I have seen him get on the floor, when he gets home at 10:30 and I pretend I am sleeping. He just pets her and talks to her softly. I know we are in this together, but most men do not do well with this stuff. I know he will be there for her, for me...but it does break my heart to see him deal with all of this. |
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I think we all are struggling with her fate.  I was lying awake last night in bed, Virginia snuggled alongside, very sad and angry thinking about Heart. It's so unfair, I can't believe this is happening to Heart.I don't think I will cope at all when I lose one of my girls...  |
| Dino is obviously a very sensitive man and is frustrated he can't fix the problem. It is hard to sit back and let the inevitable take it's course opposed to fighting every step thus delaying the inevitable. Heart is so lucky to have you two. Her life has been great, filled with love. So many dogs don't get 1% of the love she has received and doubly shared with you and all who meet her. She is showing the rest of us how to live. |
 Heart is so very fortunate to have you both. To be surrounded by so much love, all the days of her life. You are both such very special people! |
| Funny, it sounds just like 2 different friends of ours. Each one got their first dog as an adult (at the behest of their wives), and when they finally lost the dog, they were utterly blindsided by the devastation they felt. One is a songwriter, and spent the last few months writing lyrics about his furbaby (who was undergoing chemo at the time). Sounds like the change in caretaking might be putting Dino through a very similar process. They each also swore they would never, ever, ever get another dog, because they couldn't bear to go through that emotional roller coaster again. (Both friends did end up getting a new puppy, by the way.) And every time I weave a ribbon through Benson's hair, I think of you and Heart. |
| THANKS EVERYONE~~ He was really broken up with the others passed. He would come home and look around and get tearied eyed. It really needs to be said, for anyone who has never met my hubby....He is the silent type, very Italian, and keeps his emotions deep down...but when they surface...take cover!!!!  He is very very sweet and since we have been together since we were in 8th grade, we both know each other inside and out...without words... Sunday is our anniversary, 42 years....and I know we will be spending it at the Central West End, sitting at an outdoor table, with Heart right beside us. |
| Dino and Adam are so similar. Adam's the strong silent type; not an emotional guy at all. But all that goes away when it comes to his girls, Tonks and Luna. |
Happy Anniversary!  How wonderful 42 yrs!It is sweet that Dino has the opprotunity to spend more time with Heart when she needs him the most. I hope Heart continues feeling ok and enjoys all the outings you have planned for her. Everyone handles the pain of loss differently, but it is real and deep. I think of the 3 of you everyday, crossingfingers that Heart had another good day....and the good days continue. |
| I remember the last night with my Pooh Bear. I slept in the basement with him so he wouldn't be alone. He was vomiting during the night and I wanted to make sure he wouldn't be laying in it because he couldn't move. (we had an appointment in the morning to send him over the bridge) I remember our son coming in from a date and snuggling with him on the floor and talking to him. I pretended to be asleep but was aware of the whole thing. Men are sensitive but it sometimes gets buried. My husband was pretty brave during this whole ordeal since he spent many years being Pooh's main person. He finally broke down in the vet's office and we just held each other. We just did out 42nd a couple of weeks ago too! That time goes by quickly, doesn't it? Happy anniversary! Give Heart a hug from me. My son's bull mastiff was a diagnosed with lymphoma couple of weeks ago and Vinnie's time is any day now. My thoughts are with you. |
 Like the others said I am struggling with this too. I too think about Heart and hug my guys a little harder, especially Harry. But I am especially worried about you. And it makes me sad to hear Dino is having a hard time too. You are right about leaning on each other. I am here too even if it is just for a shoulder to cry on. Take care, this whole household loves Heart, you and Dino. |
| My DH is the same. He rarely seems to get emotional about stuff. But he was so upset when we lost our first two dogs. It's the only time I've even seen him shed a tear! When our first dalmo, Caesar, was diagnosed with cancer I had to help DH come to terms with sending Caesar over the bridge before we called our vet back. I feel so sad for you guys because I know how hard it is to lose a pet and how horrible it is to know its coming and not be able to make things better. Thinking of you all. |
| Happy Anniversary to you!!! Congratulations on your many years together. How blessed to have Dino there with Heart during the day. It must be a huge relief to have eyes on her at all times. And while it is so difficult, it is a special time set aside just for them Not a day goes by that we don't speak or think about Heart. She is one special lady to have effected so many of us. Our hearts go out to you and your Heart |
We're feel so helpless and sad over what you and Dino are going through. Things like this shouldn't be happening to good people and their dogs.  While most of us have suffered devastating losses in one way or another, with Heart it's different. She's always been such a sweet diva and so much a part of the forum, shows and social gatherings. Heart is dear to everyone and in a way, we're going through this ordeal with you. But not in the same way. Just know your friends are here if you ever need to vent. I only wish there was something more that could be done.  |
| Hugs to all of you Val. It is so hard to feel so helpless. You all are in our thoughts everyday--David asks about Heart often and wants you all to know he is thinking of you both too. Happy anniversary--hope you enjoy a beautiful time with Heart and Dino! Continue to know we think of you daily! |
| When we had to let Bennett go 4 years ago, it was very hard on all of us. He was my <3 dog and so important to all of our family. My husband's father passed away 4 days later. He admitted that he was sad that his dad passed away, but he was more upset that we lost Ben. I think it's because Bennett was part of our daily life whereas my husband's father was someone we talked with weekly and saw a couple of time during the year. |
| I am so sorry you are going through this. If tears could help you would all be fine. Just be there for each other...xxxx nothing more I can say.... |
| The strong, silent type - one of them lives here, too. Rarely in 40 years of knowing him have I seen him cry. But a few of those times were when we lost our previous dogs. As everyone has said - we're all here for you - and Dino. Invite him to join the forum, or post under your name, so we can comfort and support him, too. Thoughts and prayers continue during this difficult time.  |
| Big hugs to you and Dino and Heart. I think of you all often and worry how you are doing. It's an emotional roller coaster to say the least. We are all here for you whenever you need us. Happy 42nd Anniversary to two of the sweetest people I know!  Cindy |
| Venting is good and this is a safe place. My DH has been retired for several years while I continue to work part time. He's now the main day care taker and as a result has become very close to our dogs. It was so very hard on him when we lost his "heart" dog, his special boy Kevin, at a too-young age 4 years ago as a result of cancer as they had become very closely bonded. I can relate all too well. Linda Zimmerman |
oes wrote: Venting is good and this is a safe place. My DH has been retired for several years while I continue to work part time. He's now the main day care taker and as a result has become very close to our dogs. It was so very hard on him when we lost his "heart" dog, his special boy Kevin, at a too-young age 4 years ago as a result of cancer as they had become very closely bonded. I can relate all too well. Linda Zimmerman THANKS, Linda ......I am so sory about Kevin, and only 4~~~~poor thing. and Drezzies mom and Cindy and all the rest of my friends here..... I really don't know what I would do without the support of this forum. Many suggestions, many words of encouragement, many healing prayers and thoughts. This FORUM is a God-send for some of us who are dealing with ill or terminal OES's.... "WE" have friends who can sympathize, and family who can grieve with us, but, unless a Sheepie owns YOU..Well, you all know how we ALL feel about our sheepiebabies.. And who can I call??? Who can I talk to??? Who can I vent to??? 'bother'>??? at any hour of the day or night????? NO ONE..except my forum family...I can write my frustrations, my sorrow, my joys, count my blessings to have this wonderful, beautiful 'HEART" for however long...and YOU ALL UNDERSTAND. Things are happening with her...back to the vet this afternoon...please~~~We both need prayers...not that she is better, that would be too much to hope for...JUST that my little girl is not in pain or in stress....I will post after the appointment... |
| I know............. I'm feeling it here too. I don't know what i can do and i feel so helpless from so far away. I have been 'hearing' how others here are upset i haven't said anything, that it is my fault. And God knows if i could take this away from Heart I would, and from you and Dino. I loved that baby girl from the start. I'm posting against 'orders', but i really don't care at the moment. My vet and others have told me it is nothing that i could have controlled or done but i still keep asking "why?" I'm just so so sorry. Ali |
| oh..Ali....don't...just...DON't... I know how much love and care you gave this 'group', the Magnificent 7, from their first breath. No one can predict what will happen in a life, my life, your life. I believe we all have our own crosses as we go through life. Why? To make us stronger? To make us grateful? To teach us that, no matter what happens, there is love in this world and we are not alone? I don't know the answers, not until I walk over MY bridge. But for whatever reason, SHE is here with all this love! And it IS wonderful and a miracle how many people, from all over the world,are thinking of her from time to time and in some weird way, I think she knows it. I know it and it helps me...allow it to help you... Right now, our little girl is doing gREAT!!!! The pred is turning her into Heart again and I am over the moon about it!!! I know that Erica Jung's quote rings true for all of us.... 'Dogs come into our lives to teach us about love.. they depart to teach us about loss' Erica Jong |
| Val, I'm so sorry this is happening. Sending you prayers and lots of hugs. |
| ok, so i cannot remember my password. waiting on it to come to me. Val have you gotten the letter from my vet? Have you taken it to your vet? He is asking me. Ali |
Maggie McGee IV wrote: We're feel so helpless and sad over what you and Dino are going through. Things like this shouldn't be happening to good people and their dogs. While most of us have suffered devastating losses in one way or another, with Heart it's different. She's always been such a sweet diva and so much a part of the forum, shows and social gatherings. Heart is dear to everyone and in a way, we're going through this ordeal with you. But not in the same way. Just know your friends are here if you ever need to vent. I only wish there was something more that could be done. lost for words but nina said it the best we are one family here and all love u and your family |
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