Rollercoaster Ride. Admission for Military Wives
My fiance was supposed to come home in about 10 days. Yesterday I was told he was going to be pulled back another week+. Today I'm told he may come home 1 or 2 days earlier than the first early date given!!! I'm sitting here laughing due to the roller coaster of emotions I've gone through. See, he was supposed to come home in November. Military extended him THREE TIMES. Poor soldiers. Just when he thought he was in the clear (traveling closer to home/out of danger), he saw someone killed in action a few days ago. You would think he would have already seen this since SEVERAL of his buddies have been hurt or killed. ...but thankfully, he was usually assigned to do something else during those tragic incidents. The guys replacing him in Iraq had been there for TWO DAYS. This particular guy has only been married 1 yr. While out the other day, an IED hit him...blowing his leg up in front of my FI. He later died. 
I can't imagine ...and honestly do not want to... how his family will take this. When new wives have their husbands deploy, we tell them "it's okay. he'll be safe. you'll be surprised by the security there. just relax and it'll go by fast."
I feel terrible. My FI seemed so shaken up (obviously). I can already tell he's a different person in so many ways, as are all the men. I just can't wait to have him on the ground in front of me. Safe in my arms. 
I know not to have any expectations when the military gives you a date for his homecoming; however, when you've got to pick your traveling soldier up from the airport and prepare other things (like his sister about to deliver the exact date he's possibly coming home).... you are left with no choice but to believe each new date they give you. This puts a lot of weight on you because you just want your loved ones HOME after 14+ months. |
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| I am so sorry for all the pains that you and your fiance have had to bear.
I just wanted to thank you both for all the sacrifices that you have had to make to provide my familyand so many others with safety and security. You are in our prayers. |
| My deepest sympathies for your husand, his friends, and especially the serviceman's wife and family as they grieve. This is definitely the deepest fear of anyone who has someone they love in the service. It certainly was mine.
In my heart, I pray every day for the safe return of all the men and women serving in the militatry, that they might return home safely to their loved ones. If you were in hugging distance I'd give you a big hug, and we'd probably spend some time breaking down, and then have some cocoa. As it is, the best I can do is tell you to hang in, keep yourself busy with your fuzzies and planning the wedding, and if you need to talk, you know where to reach me! Karen |
| I'm so sorry. I'm a military wife also. It's so hard sometimes. That poor newlywed. I can't imagine what I would do if anything happened to Jason. He really is my support system and my best friend...I'd be lost without him!
We've been separated so much also. One week after we were married, he was deployed for 6 months. He come home and within a year, he was deployed again for a year. His last deployment was only about 6 weeks last June, so it was pretty short. I always joke that in the 6 years we've been married, he's been away more than he has been around. I tell him that's why we have such a good marriage and hardly fight. 
I know it's a lot harder on them than it is us though. We have two small children, and I have them to keep me busy. Plus, our family and our church is an awesome support system to me while he's away. He goes into it knowing no one, or very few people. He regrets missing important milestones (first steps, our oldest son's first birthday, our youngest son's first ultrasound, etc...), but I know he wouldn't give the job up for anything. It breaks my heart sometimes though, I will never forget on Jakob's 1st birthday when he called me crying and asking me to apologize to Jakob for not being able to be there. Ahh, that made me feel awful. So, yes, I really understand. When they're extended that makes it even harder. One unit where he's stationed went over for 6 months, and they ended up staying two years before they were relieved! I couldn't imagine Jason being deployed for 2 years... Being a military spouse is a hard job, and it takes a lot of dedication. I miss him like crazy when he's gone, but I also am proud of him for what he's doing for our country (along with all the troops). I know Jason is a lifer, and I knew this going into our marriage, so things like this, I'll just have to stick out until they kick him out.
I hope you have your sweetie in your arms soon!!! Maybe he'll surprise you and get back earlier! |
| Hi Jo
I couldn't even imagine the hardships of what you and other wives and families go through. No matter where one's thoughts are regarding the military, each of us should be thankful that someone like your finance is willing to do his job. I also wish they all return home safely soon to their loved ones. I'd be there as well with you sharing hugs (except I'd have coffee, you'd provide the bundt cake )
Marianne and the boys |
| So many of our Men and Women have gave up their lives for one thing and thats PEACE,and no words could express the gratitude my family has for all of our military.Leanne your such a giving and caring person,and too know your FI is over there fighting for PEACE only proves to me more the huge measure of kindness and selflessness between the both of you. God bless you and your family and Im sending prayers for your FI to come home ASAP!!!! |
| Your words are kind. That Superbowl Commercial of the troops coming home from Iraq had me in tears even when I sent it to family members and watched it for the 3rd time.
Quote: I'd be there as well with you sharing hugs (except I'd have coffee, you'd provide the bundt cake )
I'm dying!!!! 
JakobandBrandonsmom, I love hearing that there are other military wives on this board. We have a support group for veterans, spouses, SO's, and active duty personnel, and we try to tell young couples esp. new to the military lifestyle ...it's not an easy task. You definitely take on a second job and his career REALLY could not be successful without your role in it. Me being a falling into the veteran, military brat, and future wife category. |
| With all the stories I have heard and having friends whos hubbies are over in iraq,I will say tops off to you guys the loved ones left here to worry sick over their loved ones are truely the solid ones.I have sent packages over to Iraq a few times and each time i do i think to myself I could be sending this package to my son who will be 16 in April,but who knows when he is 18 he could very will be over in some country fighting for freedom,and as a mother Id loose my mind.I have the highest respect for all the spouces here in this country,the way they keep it together not only for themselves but the childern,for the family.I wish there was something I could do to help out Leanne,but maybe knowing that theres a woman in Wisconsin who thanks your FI from the bottom of her heart for fighting for freedom,and also thinks your one heck of a woman,your so kind,and so funny,and you always seem to brighten this board up w/ your reciepes,and your Yukic's silly antics.I want to thank you so much,hang in there one day your gourgeous FI will be in your arms. ps.to be honest you havent really told too many antics/stories about your new fur baby ive been waiting.... |
| Tanya, you're such a raspberry pie with whip cream to me. *heart*
Quote: I have sent packages over to Iraq a few times and each time i do i think to myself I could be sending this package to my son who will be 16 in April,but who knows when he is 18 he could very will be over in some country fighting for freedom,and as a mother Id loose my mind. You have a son who is almost 16? REALLY?!?!?!?! I love learning these tidbits about y'all! I joined when I was 17 (military). That makes my day to hear people who don't have loved ones there supporting the troops. That means so much to them. there are hundreds of young soldiers who don't have ANYONE sending them packages, and it's very depressing. We had a girl in basic training try to commit suicide just because her family never wrote. Unfortunately, there are several people in Iraq who have done the same. Thank God for supporters and the hard-working chaplains there. they do a lot for the troops.I'm babysitting 3 dogs in addition to my 3 furkids, so most of the antics have just been who gets to sleep next to the ONE upright in the house. Or the fact that the little 2lb shihtzu thinks Yuki is her mom and cries and cires until I let her climb on yuki. Yuki is always like "what the h-e-l-l mom. Get this gerbil off me." lol ...Yuki just wants mommy, so ignores the shih tzu biting and biting at her ankles and I do my best to prevent my big baby OES from sitting on him. Yesterday I was trying to teach the shih tzu puppy to potty on a puppypad other than the one in his pen (which he's perfected) ...and when I said "go potty" ...yuki squatted and went on the kitchen floor. How could I get upset with that? Good boy errrrrr.. I mean... ???? Outside of that, she's only had one other accident! I had to leave for 6 hrs and when I came home, she tinkled as I was opening her gate. She couldn't wait any longer!!! She's been so good. She knows how to sit, lay down, shake, roll over, and we're working on BARK (since she talks so much already). I used to be a part-time trainer assisting a professional though, so this is something I can't help but do for fun. The little shih tzu knows how to shake and sit. The rest is taking more time since he's so squirmy. sorry for tmi... you probably only wanted 1 antic. I have so many pics, but I'm trying to get them on my homepage.  thanks for being so caring. [/quote] |
| hehe!!your house sounds like so much fun.thats awesome that Yuki is doing well on her potty training,mickey was pretty good w/ the exception of going outside then coming in to go potty!!LOL!!once i crated him it was a breeze for him havent had any accidents since he was 3months old,so IM proud of him.Theres no such thing as to posting to many antics. Want me to blow your mind even more?I have another daughter who will be 17 on the 17th of this month!!  Im 34 so i was pretty young when i had her.Well i hope you have a great night |
| LOL Too cute, my dogs know no tricks, other than to look cute and they train us. |
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I never knew they barked SO LOUD. When Yuki answers me (like if I say "whose a goooooooood gurrrrll?" ...the Rooo-Roooh HAS to wake up everyone on my block. Has to...
Hopefully we can teach her "BARK" so we can then work on "No Rooo-Roooh'ing." I can't take the little dogs out (secretly or just in front of her) w/o her wanting to go too. I guess it makes sense she'd want to go out too... but the older shih tzu is too scared to go when Yuki is there, and I ALWAYS rather them (small dogs) go outside than on a potty pad when it's pretty out. thankfully they leave Friday and the corgi mix leaves tomorrow!!! |
| My Papaw, Dad, and Brother were all in the Navy. My FAVORITE cousin just retired after 20 years in the Navy. The men and women who are serving our country deserve a huge THANK YOU and so much more for all that they have done.
Jo, I hope your Fiance comes home soon. Tanya wrote Quote: Want me to blow your mind even more?I have another daughter who will be 17 on the 17th of this month!! Im 34 so i was pretty young when i had her.
I can beat you on that one. Wich is not really a good thing though. My son will be 13 next month and i'm only 28. 
cher |
LOL!!ok you beat me  hehe!!well when my older kids were in ELEm. school I would always get looks form the other parents I was 22 when my oldest was in kintergarden then her brother was right behind her the following yr,and it was a bit far out,but now i LOVE being a 34yr old w/ a 17yr old it really helps out as far as "being fair" to her and her brother Im more open and we talk about EVERYTHING.Her whole life she has known how young i was when I had her,and now its kind of like she has learned from moms mistakes.Dont get me wrong my kids are NOT mistakes,but IF i had waited a few more yrs it wouldnt have been so tough in the begining,but we live and learn. |
I wouldn't have guessed Cher had kids either!!!  |
| Tanya I wouldn't have it any other way either. My son is the best thing that ever happend to me. If i hadn't had him so young I never would have had children. I always tell him he was never unwanted just unplanned. lol
The best thing is I don't look 28 so most people that we just meet assume that we are brother and sister. My ID is my friend can't go anywhere without it. |
| Okay, update:
So far, the date is still set for early next week. I am so excited and nervous.
I know I'll start crying as soon as I see all of the soldiers run into the gym to greet their families. (sigh) I'm pretty sure I won't be posting much the first few days he's back. |
| I'm so happy for you!! We dont expect to see you for at least a week |
| We had better get lots of photos of your family together. |
| i 2nd that Marie!!!!PICTURES leanne |
| awww...I"m so glad they're coming home next week! Enjoy your reunion |
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